Saturday, June 13, 2015

The Holy Grail - New Church Members

Years ago, several pastoral colleagues and I were talking together about the church, about the congregations we each served, and about future outlooks.  As such conversations inevitably do, the subject came up of the challenge of finding, getting, and keeping new church members.  One of my colleagues there said, "Part of the challenge at my congregation is our attitude about evangelism.  It can be summed up like this:  'Well, we don't mind if you come.'"

How's that for an enthusiastic approach to getting new members into your congregation?  "We don't mind if you come."

We all bemoan the dearth of new members, and the continual - sometimes gradual, sometimes not - dwindling of numbers in our congregations.

Here are some thoughts of mine for your consideration, reflection, conversation, or to "file"...

The "Presbyterian Church" is not losing members!  The General Assembly can neither receive nor dismiss church members.  Neither can the Synod.  Neither can our Presbytery.  Members come and go in our congregations.  Period.  Although "denominational loyalty" used to be the norm in American society, that time long has passed.  People usually don't join a Presbyterian congregation because they've always been Presbyterian.  In other words, people don't join a Presbyterian congregation; they join a local congregation.  People become involved in a congregation that is welcoming, that offers meaningful worship, that invites participation in activities that have an impact in the community and that make a difference in the world, that nurtures their own spiritual life.

How welcoming is your church?  Most studies show that people who visit a church for the first time make up their minds about the church within 30 seconds of walking in the door!  How are they greeted?  Is the entry space filled with papers scattered haphazardly around on tables, or is the paint on the walls cracked, or is the furniture about 80 years old and unsafe to sit on?  Is the worship bulletin self-explanatory?  If Communion is being celebrated, how will they know if they should eat the bread when it's passed or wait until everyone has been served and partake together?  Are they treated as "visitors" or as "guests?"  (Those two are very, very different!)

Studies on church growth consistently show that the vast majority of people who visit a church do so because someone they know invited them!  Should the pastor seek out new people and invite them to church?  Of course!  However, people usually will react to such an invitation by thinking, "Of course she invited me to attend.  It's her job."  If you're a church member, no one will think you're being paid to invite people to your church.  If you're genuine about it, they'll recognize that you're excited about being a part of your worshiping community, that you find it a worthwhile way to spend your time and energy, and that you would love to have them share that experience with you.  So... when was the last time you invited someone to worship or some other event at your church?

The song is true, that "they'll know we are Christians by our love."  If we are not living in ways that are consistent with the things we say we believe, people will pick that up in a heartbeat.  However, people also need to hear us talk about our faith.  The Lord knows that we don't need more "Bible-beaters" in our society!  But we DO need people whose faith is deep, sincere, and dear, and who find natural opportunities to talk about the things they believe.  The old joke asks, "What do you get when you cross a Jehovah's Witness and a Presbyterian?  Someone who knocks on every door, but then has nothing to say when the door is opened."  We need to get comfortable with natural expressions of faith shared with people around us.

The days are gone when we can once again expect our sanctuaries to be bursting at the seams.  But the needs of people to be involved in faith communities that are vibrant and genuine are as great - or greater - than ever.  What can you do to encourage people to be a part of your faith community, to join you on your spiritual journey?

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